Fighting in relationships can be good as it allows you and your partner to air your differences. Although it’s good to get things out, the fight can last too long. We can be stubborn and don’t want to be the first to apologize, often resulting in a standoff. You don’t want to back down, but is the fight really worth it? Here are some tips to help you make up with your partner after an argument.
Let it go
There is no point dragging the argument out for longer than it needs to last. If only one of you was wrong in the first place, pretty soon it will be both of your faults for the argument lasting so long. Emotions often run high following an argument. Your partner had the last word, and that’s just not sitting right with you, you want it!
Accept responsibility for your part in the argument and give up the need to be the one in the right. There are two sides to every story, and while you thought you were doing the right thing, your partner might not agree.
If you live together, one of the best things you can do is to find a spot in your home away from your partner. You will both still be pretty angry and staying in the same room festering your bad thoughts isn’t going to calm things down. The best thing to do is to go for a walk or stay in another room for a while to compose your thoughts.
Sometimes you’re ready to make up but your partner isn’t there yet, so try not to be too clingy in the aftermath of the fight. Use the time to reflect on what went wrong and when your partner is ready to talk, you can rationally give your side of the story.
If you want to put this argument behind you, and not have the same fight in a few weeks, then you and your partner need to communicate effectively. Make sure you think about everything that led up to the fight. Giving your partner and understanding of your feelings will help them understand what they were doing wrong, and your partner will be able to do the same for you.
The relationship comes first
At the end of the day, you and your partner love each other, and this is just a fight that means nothing in the grand scheme of things. To help you move on, say you’re sorry and get things back on track. If you don’t get where your partner is coming from then ask them to explain their thought process. Support your partner’s emotions after the fight, their feelings are important too. Together you can work things out and get back to having a great relationship.
Fighting in a relationship can be healthy, just as long as you find a way to make things up afterward.
Getting over a fight as quickly as possible lets you get back to the good times as soon as possible.