This man vowed never to marry again but then tied the knot with a woman 37 years his junior

This man vowed never to marry again but then tied the knot with a woman 37 years his junior

For some relationships, divorce is an inevitability. Whether they were doomed from the start or things just went downhill, it’s only a matter of time before they end in disaster. Although that’s not necessarily a bad thing, especially as both parties are then free to find love with someone else, you still have to get through all the legal trouble first. That’s something that can put a person off getting married again for life.

That’s seemingly what happened to retired Australian investor Steve Zielinski. The man had considered himself to be lucky in love at one point, but then his world came crashing down after his first marriage came to an end. It wasn’t so much the separation that affected him, but rather the toll the divorce took on him.

By the time it was finally over, he’d decided that he’d never tie the knot again. However, then he met Emily Charman in a coffee shop one day, and his outlook on life completely changed. Now he’s a husband once again and happy with where his life is heading, even if his new marriage isn’t the most conventional one.

Stumbling across each other

You can never be sure of where you’ll meet the love of your life. A lot of the time, a relationship springs up on you when you’re not even looking for it.

Stumbling across each other

That’s certainly what happened to Zielinski and Charman who’d never imagined they’d become husband and wife. However, as these two soon discovered, life works in the most surprising ways.

A controversial business

Back in Australia, Steve Zielinski is a name that rings a bell for quite a few people. That’s because he used to be the man behind one of the country’s more controversial restaurants. Named Slic Chix, it was famous for offering diners an experience they wouldn’t find in a five-star restaurant. People had the opportunity to eat their meals off of someone hired by Slic Chix, and there weren’t any clothes getting in the way of their food.

A controversial business

The establishment catered to a very specific kind of clientele, many of whom appreciated what Zielinski had brought to the city of Perth. As a restaurant owner and celebrated advocate of the topless barmaid industry, he’d built up a big reputation and plenty of money to go with it. Unfortunately, that all took a sizable hit when his first marriage reached its inevitable end.

Leaving him with nothing

Divorces aren’t typically a pleasant thing to go through. Even when a marriage was unhealthy, it’s still painful going through the separation process. Of course, it’s not helped by the fact that divorces tend to take quite a while to be finalized. There are often so many different aspects to cover, such as settling finances and dividing possessions. However, they don’t usually take ten years to be completed!

Leaving him with nothing

Zielinski definitely pulled the short straw when he split from his first wife because the separation was not a quick affair. Their legal battle lasted an entire decade, by the end of which the restaurateur found himself fairly strapped for cash. He’d been forced to pay $1.2 million just for the legal fees, not to mention anything he gave to his wife in the settlement. She’d basically bled him dry, and it left Zielinski certain of one thing.

Meeting by chance

After what his first wife had put him through, Steve decided he’d never walk down the aisle again. He wasn’t sure if he could afford to do it all again, especially if he ended up having to deal with another divorce. He was much happier staying a single man and enjoying what he had left of his life and money. However, Zielinski made that vow to himself before he set eyes on Emily Charman.

Meeting by chance

The two crossed paths in a coffee shop while Charman – a British personal trainer – was in Australia on a backpacking vacation. She’d only been in the country for a month when she met the restaurateur, and it turned out to be one of the most memorable moments of her trip. Emily hadn’t been looking for love, so she was completely caught off guard by how hard she fell for Steve.

Slow and steady

Neither party was looking to jump into a relationship. Charman didn’t want a vacation romance, while Zielinski still felt burned by his divorce. That’s why they took things incredibly slowly after that first meeting. They’d struck up a conversation in the coffee shop that had shown some shared interests, and from there they became friends. The more time they spent together, the greater their feelings developed for one another.

Slow and steady

It was all very natural, and before they realized it, they were referring to themselves as a couple. That was all the way back in 2012. Many years have passed since then, and in all that time the love these two feel for each other has only grown. They would never have imagined they’d end up here, but that’s love for you. It works in mysterious ways, especially when you’re not even looking for it.

Changing his mind

As Zielinski continued spending time with his girlfriend, it became clear she was the woman for him. Although his first wife had put him off marriage for life, Charman had reignited his passion for tying the knot.

Changing his mind

That’s why on February 13th, 2018, he got down on one knee and asked the Brit to become his wife. By that point, their relationship had been going for six years, and it was still as strong as ever. Emily knew that Steve was the man for her, so, of course, she said yes!

A dream come true

The couple eventually tied the knot in February 16th, 2019, in what was undoubtedly a special day for everyone involved. Emily herself said that the whole day was “amazing from start to finish” and she couldn’t pinpoint any part that was more special than the rest.

A dream come true

Well, apart from saying “I do.” After being with Steve for seven years, she was happy to finally call him her husband, especially given his previous stance on marriage. Her love had proven strong enough to break down his resistance.

Casting their doubts

Emily and Steve had plenty of close friends and family with them to celebrate their big day. However, that doesn’t mean that everyone approves of relationship, even though it’s been going for so many years now.

Casting their doubts

In particular, some of Zielinski’s pals are worried that the man has made a big mistake by marrying his wife, especially considering the age gap between them. Emily is 37 years younger than her partner, and on that fateful day in the coffee shop, she was only 22. Steve, on the other hand, was 59.

Never too old

Of course, while his friends might be concerned about his relationship, Zielinski is perfectly comfortable with the set-up. He isn’t worried that by the time he’s considered an elderly man, his wife will still only be in her forties.

Never too old

Despite what you may think, their age has never interfered with their relationship. Steve chooses not to worry about what the future may look like with Emily because he’s happy with his wife in the here and now. Plus, he trusts that his partner won’t ditch him once he’s “too old.”

Age is just a number

It seems that Steve isn’t the only one who feels comfortable with the age gap. Although you might expect Emily to go for someone closer to her age, she can’t imagine herself being with anyone but the retired investor.

Age is just a number

Admittedly, she didn’t expect herself to fall for someone so much older, but she’s happy with the way things have worked out. Now, she doesn’t even think about the age difference because she and Steve are so happy. He keeps their life exciting, and that means more than anything else.

Older than her mom

Although they’re comfortable with the age gap now, they did need some time to adjust to it in the beginning. The personal trainer found it a little weird to get her head around at first, especially because Zielinski was older than her mother.

Older than her mom

However, in the years since their love first blossomed, she’s started seeing the funny side of this. Her mother is seemingly unbothered by the age difference, even referring to Steve as her son-in-law, even though she’s younger than him. At least the relationship has her support.

Down with the kids

While Zielinski is closer in age to Emily’s mother than the woman herself, the reverse is the same with his wife. She’s of a similar age to Steve’s two children that he had during his first marriage. Understandably, welcoming a new stepmom who’s of the same generation as them was a little weird, but they’ve had plenty of time to adjust to it.

Down with the kids

After all, the married couple was together for seven years before tying the knot, so it wasn’t like Emily was a stranger in her stepchildren’s lives.

The wrong decisions

Even though some of his friends have questioned his relationship, Zielinski doesn’t feel they’re in any position to judge him. He believes that they’re all making the wrong decisions when it comes to love because they’re not picking women who really care for them.

The wrong decisions

He stated that they often go for gold diggers who are more interested in their money and possessions than everything else they have to offer. It’s something that regularly happens to people with a lot of money, although Steve doesn’t believe it’s happened to him.

Love over money

If Emily’s a gold digger, then she’s spent too many years barking up the wrong tree. That’s because Zielinski’s financial situation is nothing like it used to be. He lost most of his fortune after he divorced from his first wife, and it forced him to start living less of a lavish lifestyle.

Love over money

Although he’s still doing okay for himself, he’s not as rich as other men in his position. Of course, Emily is well aware of this, and it doesn’t bother her. She’s not in it for the money.

Working on a budget

The new Mrs. Zielinski is well aware that cash is tighter than it used to be for her husband. That’s why when it came to their wedding, she planned everything. She had the time and freedom to do it all herself, and she knew it would save them a lot in the long run.

Working on a budget

She was very conscientious about money during the planning process, and she was willing to cut corners or make sacrifices whenever necessary. She had a clear vision of what she wanted, but she wasn’t against compromising.

Going all out

That isn’t to say that Emily didn’t end up spending quite a bit when it came to their wedding. She still had a fair amount of money to work with, and she wanted the day to be the best it could be. However, although she had to pay top dollar for some things, she found that it all evened out in the end.

Going all out

For instance, their exclusive venue at Margaret River Secret Gardens wasn’t cheap, but they ended up saving money on accommodation, transport, and even drinks for the reception.

Blogger extraordinaire

Emily’s life has changed a lot since moving to Australia. When she first visited the country on her backpacking adventure, she never intended to stay there forever. However, after meeting Steve, she knew she couldn’t leave him.

Blogger extraordinaire

So, she packed up her life and moved Down Under, leaving her with the need to find a new direction. Luckily, she landed on her feet when she set up her vegan blog, Herbivore Chef, where she shares recipes and tips for people looking to follow a healthier lifestyle.

Sharing the gossip

Although Emily typically posts about food on her blog, she made sure to fill her fans in on all the details from her special day in February. She covered as many aspects as possible, from her husband’s proposal to advice for other brides-to-be.

Sharing the gossip

While the blogger puts passion into everything she writes, it was clear from this post just how much the wedding meant to her. It was her special day, and it evidently went off without a hitch. Isn’t that what every bride wants when they get married?

Doing it for the vegans

Emily has been dedicated to her blog for several years now, and she continues to work hard to share as much exciting new content as possible. She knows that most people believe vegans are extremely restricted in what they can eat, but her recipes have proven that meals aren’t as boring as you might think.

Doing it for the vegans

She takes her role as a blogger incredibly seriously and appreciates that she has the opportunity to spend her life working on it. Not everyone can do that, especially when they have bills to pay.

A rising star

Thanks to her blog, Emily has now racked up quite a following on social media. Her Instagram account has nearly 14,000 followers, many of whom are foodies that appreciate the recipes she shares.

A rising star

Everything she posts is 100% vegan and designed and photographed by herself, making this one venture that Emily can be incredibly proud of. She started with nothing, and she’s slowly making a name for herself in the online world. Now that she’s married, she really does have everything she could ever ask for.

Save the bunnies

In fact, Emily cares so much about vegan life that she even posts to social media about protecting animals that people don’t even normally consume: bunny rabbits. She adopted a pet rabbit named Smokey and calls him her beloved fur baby.

Save the bunnies

He is quite a big boy and as an addition to her family, he is another responsibility. Because of this, she urges people not to buy pet bunnies for the Easter holiday because many of them end up being neglected. She wants people to adopt these animals instead and only if they can take on the task.

Fully committing

While we’ve already said that Emily does everything she can to maintain a fully vegan lifestyle, she really took things to the next level when she posted about her vegan tanning cream. That’s right; even her tan is vegan!

Fully committing

She added this photo to her Instagram to show her followers that it really is positive to fully commit to being vegan, from the food we eat to the self-tanner we use. Obviously people were appreciative to learn how she keeps such a stunning tan.

Exercise is key

While we all wish that we could just eat the delicious vegan options Emily posts about, there is a lot more to being fit and healthy than just what we eat and she makes sure to emphasize this.

Exercise is key

Emily often posts about how exercise is also a big part of her life. She is frequently out on the water and hiking through trails, making it obvious that remaining active is just as important to her healthy lifestyle as what she eats.

An interest in politics

So, what does Steve do while his wife is busy creating new recipes and living her best life online? Well, following his retirement, Zielinski showed an interest in getting into politics. However, his past quickly stopped anything coming out of that.

An interest in politics

When he attempted to be a One Nation candidate in 2017, he received a lot of press coverage about his old business endeavors. Being associated with places like Slic Chix didn’t do great things for his image, and it wasn’t long before his political dreams were over.

Light of his life

While he might have had his hopes dashed following his failed campaign, Zielinski appears pretty happy with where his life is right now. Why shouldn’t he be? Not only does he have a new wife, but his faith in love has been restored.

Light of his life

He was ready to give up on marriage after his decade-long divorce, but then Emily showed up and reignited his passion for romance. She’s brought so much positivity to his life, and there’s no doubt she’ll continue to do that for many more years to come.

Not posting personal

While Emily does frequently post, it would appear that she only posts gorgeous selfies and pictures of food, but not so much about her personal life. This could be because she chooses to keep her professional life separate from her private life.

Not posting personal

She only has a few posts on her Instagram page about Steve and the wedding. Emily seems to be mostly business on her social media account. That sure doesn’t mean that this new bride did not love her very special day, however.

Dream wedding

She did post some gorgeous shots from her wedding and talked about how perfect her wedding was and how she could not have dreamed for a better day.

Dream wedding

Well, you can’t have a perfect wedding without the perfect guy, so this obviously means she is just as head over heels for Steve as he is for her. She has a collection of a few of her best shots and it’s clear that Emily is beyond excited and happy about her new life with her husband Steve.